Matching with your surrogate mother is an exciting time in your surrogacy journey. Circle works with many surrogate mothers from New Jersey, as well as most of the surrounding states. With headquarters in Boston and an office in New York, we have a strong representation in the New Jersey area, making it even easier for surrogates and intended parents to connect.
The first steps in finding a surrogate mother match is to determine if you will be working with a surrogacy agency (who will match you with your surrogate) or pursuing and independent journey where you will be finding a surrogate mother on your own.
Once you determine how you'll go about finding a surrogate, you can think about what you're looking for in a gestational carrier; do you have a preference on where she lives, her lifestyle, the level of communication you wish to have.
It's important to be honest when thinking about your answers. If you work with an agency such as Circle Surrogacy, they will use these answers – as well as your geographic location and views on termination – in order to find you the best match.
You'll be asked to fill out an intended parent profile that not only allows us to get to know you better, but also helps our Matching Team find your surrogate match.
This profile is filled with information about you, your relationship (if you are coupled), your family, your hobbies, your plans for parenthood, and what brought you to surrogacy. We'll ask that you also share photos of yourself, your loved ones and of anything else that gives a good sense of who you are as people.
In addition to your profile, there are certain criteria on which you will be matched with your gestational carrier.
Intended Parent matching criteria includes their preferences on:
• Level of communication with their surrogate during the journey
• Location of the surrogate mother
• Number of embryos to transfer
• Views on selective reduction and termination
If you are doing an independent surrogacy journey, you can use the above as guidelines as to what you should be looking for in a suitable match.
In the United States, each state has its own laws regarding surrogacy. In addition, each country we assist has different requirements and laws regarding surrogacy. Therefore, our legal team ensures that the laws of the surrogate’s home state (where the delivery will take place) complement the laws of intended parents' home state/country (including laws around same sex parenting). The legal department will always approve a match from a legal standpoint before a surrogate profile is presented to intended parents.New Jersey surrogacy laws
We ask IPs and surrogates their views on termination of a pregnancy as we want to create a match of IPs and surrogates who share similar views. We want to ensure that the views of the surrogate and the views of the intended parents align in the event a situation arises where a reduction or termination is considered. In our experience, many intended parents prefer the option to make the choice of termination.Become a parent
Both surrogates and intended parents undergo phone calls or in-person meetings with the Circle team early in the process; these meetings help determine your personality as it relates to surrogacy. We also look at IPs' and surrogates' expectations and hopes for the journey including number of embryos to transfer and communication styles.More about matching