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A big first step in your journey to parenthood as an LGBTQ single or couple is finding an egg donor. When you find your egg donor match, you will create embryos for your surrogate. What should you look for in an egg donor? How do you find the perfect egg donor? Read on for tips on how start the process of finding an egg donor.
In a gestational surrogacy, an embryo is transferred into a surrogate's uterus for her to care for and carry. The embryo is created in a lab with eggs and sperm – either from the intended parents or from a donor(s) – and transferred either fresh or frozen.
No. In a gestational surrogacy, the surrogate does not use her eggs (DNA) for the embryo(s) she carries. Instead, a second woman will be part of equation if you require a woman's biology: an egg donor. A surrogate will never use her eggs in a gestational surrogacy; that is called traditional surrogacy and is not widely practiced.
Your egg donor will be one of the two special women in your life as you begin your journey to parenthood. Your egg donor has a big role in your family building: it will be her DNA that will make up half of the DNA in your child(ren).
Read on to see how to go about choosing an egg donor, what to look for in an egg donor and more.
Egg donors are kind and selfless women who agree to donate their eggs because they want help others have a family. Egg donors come from all over the United States, from all different ethnic, geographic and religious backgrounds. So how do you choose the right egg donor?
Some intended parents come to the egg donor selection process knowing what they are looking for, whether that is a physical attribute, a characteristic or a personality trait. But not everyone has an idea of what to look for in an egg donor. Here are some steps you can take as you start the egg donor matching process.
This is a great place to start if you are starting to choose an egg donor. Some intended parents find it helpful to write down what they are hoping to see in their future child.
Making of list of the types of characteristics and qualities you imagine in your future child can help to narrow down the type of donor for whom you are looking. If you are partnered, this is a great exercise to do separately and then compare notes. Doing this will allow each person to see what is important to the other. Hopefully your lists will have qualities in common that you can use as a starting point for your egg donor search.
Now think about what is most important to you as you think about the woman who will donate her eggs so you can create your family. Here's a short list of things to think about and prioritize:
There is no wrong or right way to approach finding an egg donor. Your list of qualities and what is most important is personal to you and your partner. There is zero judgement from Circle on what you're looking for; our goal is to help you find the perfect donor match. We have had intended parents come to us and their one requirement has been hazel eyes, or an Ivy League school or proficient in the violin. You are creating your family.
If you're having trouble picturing your perfect donor match – or if you have lists in hand – we recommend that you start searching! If you register for Circle's Donor Database (it's free!) you can start to see the women who are ready to help you create your family. You can search by certain characteristics or qualities to narrow your search, or you can scroll through them all.
There's no right or wrong way to search for a donor. Some intended parents need to search through a database to determine what they are not looking for in order to see what they are looking for in a donor. You may come across a donor that just speaks to you who does not mach what's on your list but who seems perfect.
An egg donor database like Circle's is filled with hundreds of young, bright women ready to help LGBTQ+ singles and couples grow their families.
Each egg donor profile is filled with a tremendous amount of information on each donor. You'll find physical details and characteristics, personality traits, her education, professions and health history, photos and videos. Each profile gives you a well-rounded view of who the woman is as a person, her goals and favorite foods and more.
An egg donor database can feel overwhelming at first. Here are some tips on how to go about finding an egg donor in an egg donor database:
If you have questions or want to talk through the process a bit more, we understand! The Circle team is happy to chat with you before you start; we want you to be comfortable in everything you do. We're here to help!
There are a few ways you can reach us: