If you know someone who's interested in becoming a surrogate mother, and she's wondering if she'd make a good surrogate, here are some thoughts you an share about what it takes for a woman to be a successful surrogate.
First, a successful surrogate mother must meet all of the surrogate requirements put forth by a surrogacy agency and IVF clinics.
Next, a potential surrogate applicant should know that surrogates are human beings who are willing and able to do something incredible for someone else.
Here are qualities that a surrogate mother should have. A surrogate mother should be:
A surrogate should be honest about everything. Throughout pregnancy, unexpected questions and concerns will arise, and absolute transparency and communication will be key. Being truthful encourages communication. This will help to foster the surrogate-intended parent relationship and make the experience all the more worthwhile and meaningful.
If you're a super-organized person, you may make a great surrogate! Surrogacy is a huge commitment. There are many items to coordinate, including travel, screenings, evaluations, treatments, and — last but certainly not least — the actual pregnancy. All this on top of her own life, family and kids, and it can be a little overwhelming. That’s why it’s vital she be on top of her game and know how to efficiently manage her time. And, it’s important that she understands that surrogacy may need to take precedence over other commitments.
Above everything else, a surrogate should have a clear understanding of surrogacy, the surrogacy process, medications, commitments and more. The more knowledge a surrogate acquires, the smoother the journey will be. Those interested in surrogacy can learn by asking questions and conducting research. From the first day of screening to the day she leaves the hospital after delivery, she should fully know her role. At Circle, the entire Surrogate Prescreening Team are experienced surrogates. So from the very first email or phone call, women are able to gain an understanding of what the process is like…from someone who has been through it!
Women who are becoming gestational surrogates need to be in good shape. A prospective surrogate should be in excellent overall health to ensure that both she and the baby come through the process safe and sound. Additionally, prenatal care is very important for any woman who is expecting to conceive.
A successful pregnancy requires that the surrogate not consume alcohol, not smoke, eat a well-balanced diet, cut out certain foods, get enough sleep, be active and have a Body Mass Index (BMI) of no higher than 33. Weight plays a role because the levels of body fat can affect conception as estrogen is stored and produced in fat cells. The BMI limits are set by the fertility clinics to ensure a woman will respond properly to medications.
As anyone who has given birth before knows that there are a wide range of physical and emotional aspects that result from pregnancy. Having a positive and supportive personal environment is just as important as having the proper medical care when it comes to getting through the journey. A great surrogate should have more than one person in her support system and be willing to talk openly about her involvement in the program. When a surrogate tells her family and friends about the journey, the experience is that much more rewarding.