Circle on GWK: One Surrogate’s Experience Carrying Twins for Gay and HIV+ Intended Parents

Carrying Twins for Gay and HIV+ Couple

This post was originally published on Gays with Kids

The word serendipity is such a magical word, and one that’s rarely used. But so far, it’s the best word I can think of to describe my surrogacy experience, carrying twins for a gay HIV positive couple in the SPAR program.

I came to surrogacy because I have been drawn to help others my whole life. Because of a medical condition, my sister is unable to have her own children. I witnessed first-hand the painful questions young women are asked all too often: “When are you going to have kids?” Hearing my sister reply, “I won’t be” helped shape me into who I am today, and my decision to become a surrogate.

I was looking for something exceptional in my surrogacy, but I didn’t know exactly what that was. When I applied to be a surrogate, I had never thought of all the different walks of life waiting and hoping for someone to come along and help create a family for them.

Saying “yes” to the Special Program for Assisted Reproduction (SPAR).

During the application process I was asked if I would consider carrying a baby for intended parents in SPAR. I initially checked off the “NO” box; originally, I wasn’t interested in working with someone in the SPAR program who was HIV+. Honestly, I did not fully understand what I read about it, and it seemed complicated and frightening. Checking off “No” seemed easier. But I sat there for a moment, trying to open up my mind. I thought to myself, ‘What’s the harm in checking “Yes” and getting more information?’Becoming a surrogate was going to be the biggest learning experience of my life, and I wanted to be all in! I changed my answer to “Yes,” which I now feel was serendipity.

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