Becoming a Surrogate: 6 Questions to Ask Before Starting the Process

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We hear a lot of questions from women who are considering becoming a surrogate. You can check out a list of our most asked questions on our FAQs page. But now we’re asking you to turn the tables and ask yourself a few questions before beginning a surrogacy journey. We think these questions will help you determine if you’re ready to start the adventure of surrogacy!

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  1.  Do you have a thorough understanding of the surrogacy process?Woman holding coffee mug that says "I make families. What's your superpower?"

Becoming a surrogate mother is a big commitment, but it can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your lifetime. We’ve found that many successful surrogate applicants have read a lot about surrogacy before beginning the application process. A good place to start is with one of our free surrogacy guides, or right here on the Circle Surrogacy blog!

  1.  What kind of experience are you looking for in your surrogacy journey?

There are hundreds of surrogacy agencies, so making sure you have found one that can provide you with the type of surrogacy experience you are looking for is an important first step in the process. Circle is a relationship-based agency – which means we encourage (and in fact, require) open and honest communication between everyone involved. Surrogates and intended parents who are a good fit for our program are typically those who are hoping to get to know each other and build a relationship during and after the journey is over!

  1.  Have you discussed surrogacy with your support network?

If you have a spouse or partner, he or she will need to be committed to a successful surrogacy journey, just like you. If you’re single, you will need to designate a friend or family member who can help you out during the experience. We’ll have a phone call with your support person during the screening process to make sure he or she is fully educated about what the process involves. So as you’re exploring the option of becoming a surrogate mother, it’s a good idea to start talking to your loved ones about your plans. If you’re apprehensive about talking to your kids about surrogacy, one of our surrogates has created a guide for how to do it! 

  1.  Do you meet the initial requirements to become a surrogate mother?

The initial surrogacy application helps us determine if you are a good fit for our program – but before you apply, it’s a good idea to check the surrogate mother requirements. These requirements are established by state laws and IVF clinic guidelines. If you’re thinking of becoming a surrogate and are wondering why these requirements are in place, we wrote a blog post to provide even more information! 

  1.  What are you looking for in your intended parent(s)?Kristi with IPs and Twins

Are you open to working with any type of family? Would you prefer to help a same-sex couple or a heterosexual couple who have gone through infertility? How do you feel about working with intended parents from outside the United States? Asking yourself these questions will help you fill out matching questionnaires, which allows us to match you with intended parents who are a good fit for you!

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  1.  Are you ready?

If you think you’re ready to embark on your surrogacy experience, you can fill out our surrogate application and be on your way to becoming a surrogate!