There are many reasons that people choose surrogacy to grow their families. For those who are unable to have children on their own, gestational surrogacy helps them grow their families. This includes same-sex couples who are unable to conceive naturally, couples who struggle with infertility, singles who do not have a partner to conceive with naturally, and those who have pre-existing conditions or history of cancer that have prevented them from naturally conceiving on their own.
At Circle Surrogacy offices in Boston, San Francisco, and New York, we work with many intended parents who have a history of cancer and chose surrogacy as their method for growing their families. For over two decades, Circle Surrogacy’s variety of programs for intended parents have made the joy of parenthood possible for those looking to become parents through surrogacy after cancer.
We often receive questions about becoming a parent through surrogacy after cancer. We asked Kristin Marsoli, Director of Marketing at Circle Surrogacy, to answer some questions about her own personal experience of becoming a parent after cancer.
Can you start looking for a surrogate if you haven’t completed cancer treatment?
At Circle Surrogacy, the health of the intended parent is a high priority. For this reason, we do not allow intended parents to start their surrogacy process until they have completed active treatment (such as chemotherapy or radiation). This way, the intended parent can focus on her/his health. Managing your own health while going through the surrogacy process would be quite a bit to handle at once.
That being said, we are always happy to speak with those interested in pursuing surrogacy, but who are still in treatment and not yet ready to begin the process. We can connect you to our qualified staff (including LCSW and cancer survivors who are parents through the program!) to gather information and learn more about surrogacy and the process for when you are ready. (You can just email [email protected], and we’ll connect you right away!)
Does Circle Surrogacy have any specific resources for people who are looking to have children through surrogacy after cancer?
At Circle Surrogacy, we have a unique perspective on becoming a parent through surrogacy after cancer because we have members of our Circle team who have been through the process themselves. Our experienced team is made up of former surrogates, egg donors, and parents through our program. We have multiple parents through surrogacy after cancer and surrogates and egg donors who have worked with parents who have a history of cancer. This unique perspective allows our team to relate more closely to the experience of cancer survivors. Led by a team of people who have had their own firsthand experiences with surrogacy, we set out to educate, lead and guide you through your journey, working tirelessly to help you achieve success and fulfill your dream.
Are there special programs or grants available if you are looking into surrogacy after cancer? Is it state-dependent? I’ve been struggling to find any financial assistance for this, but I am told it does exist.
Great question. Surrogacy can be expensive, and there are a few ways to help make it more affordable. Some intended parents take out loans, some get help from family and friends, etc. Every situation is different. Regarding grants, specifically, I believe there are some out there that help cancer survivors financially in different aspects of their lives. One that comes to mind is The Samfund. I have not worked with the Sam Fund personally, though Circle Surrogacy has supported this organization in the recent past. I can’t speak to what they offer, but this might be a good starting point. Also, I do know that some individuals start a Go Fund Me or Kickstarter if that is something that you’d be interested in exploring. We offer additional information about how to afford surrogacy in an earlier blog post.
What are your thoughts about those people who are gonna try to have a family with their cancer survivor partner?
Circle Surrogacy was founded on the belief that everyone should have the opportunity to become a parent. It’s at the core of everything we do. Because of this, it has lead the agency to have a diverse group of parents through our program, including same-sex parents, HIV positive parents, single parents, parents who faced medical challenges, and cancer survivors.
Speaking to cancer survivors specifically, Circle is proud to help survivors experience the joys of parenthood, especially after experiencing loss and facing challenges. Circle Surrogacy works with many cancer survivors, who may begin a journey only after they’ve completed treatment. In fact, Circle employs two cancer survivors on staff who are parents through our program. They can speak firsthand how rewarding it is to embark on a surrogacy journey, looking forward to the joy of a baby after experiencing treatment and surgery for cancer. Livestrong offers some helpful information about various parenthood options for cancer survivors.
When did you decide you wanted to pursue surrogacy after cancer? Did you consider other options first?
Hi there! We decided to start thinking about growing our family about 4 years after my diagnosis and treatment. We decided to pursue surrogacy because having a biological connection to our child was important for us (my husband and I are both only children). Plus, we wanted to be part of the experience of having our baby; with surrogacy, we would be able to be part of the pregnancy with our surrogate, attend appointments, etc. At the end of the day, of the family growing options available, surrogacy was the one that felt right when we thought about what we wanted from the experience of growing our family to be like.
What are the next steps for someone interested in speaking to someone at Circle Surrogacy about becoming a parent through surrogacy after cancer?
For more information about our personalized family planning services and resources at Circle Surrogacy and Egg Donation, contact us today. If you’re interested in learning more about becoming a parent after cancer, you can do so on our website! We can’t wait to hear from you!
Written by: Kristin Marsoli
Kristin joined Circle Surrogacy in 2017 as Marketing Director. Prior to this role, Kristin worked at advertising and marketing agencies, creating successful brand, digital and social campaigns for clients. Her personal experience brought her to Circle Surrogacy: Kristin and her husband are proud parents to their son thanks to Circle Surrogacy. Having been through the process, Kristin brings an experienced perspective to all of Circle Surrogacy’s digital and social marketing. She is excited to use her marketing expertise for something for which she has so much passion.