All posts are republished with permission from Sarah’s blog Oven Rental: Life as a Surrogate. Sarah is currently on her third journey. This story recounts the successful match, transfer, pregnancy and birth through surrogacy. For context, this story refers to a previous match with a couple who did not ultimately pursue surrogacy.
November 19th, 2014
10 Weeks Post Delivery!
I figured I would give everyone an update on the last few months since delivery. It has been almost 11 weeks since I gave birth, and I’m just now starting to feel back to normal. The carpal tunnel has gotten significantly better, the heartburn is pretty much gone, and my back pain is getting better, and I see a nice hot stone massage in my future to help with that!
I had my 6 week checkup in the middle of October, and everything checked out just fine. Considering everything that went on down there, the doctor was pleased with her findings and gave me the okay to start exercising.
My husband came home on October 25th! He left 8 days after delivery, so he was gone for 7 weeks! WAY TOO LONG!!! Him being gone was very hard, mostly emotionally this time. When he was gone for 5 weeks when I was still majorly pregnant, it was hard physically as well as emotionally but I was slightly distracted with giving birth to a healthy baby just enough. So glad he is home, and we are adjusting well to him being home! He now works from home and that has really been good for the kids to see him throughout the day, and know that he is still with us. We missed him very much!
A couple of weeks ago, I had my exit interview with Circle Surrogacy, the agency. It was just a time when they ask our opinions as surrogates what they can do to better their process and make things easier for us. They really did a fantastic job with me and the intended parents and I would recommend them strongly to anyone who would be interested in starting on a surrogacy journey.
The last question of the interview was the hardest for me to answer. Would you consider a surrogacy journey again? The answer is a big whopping: I DON’T KNOW! I have been asked this question several times by different people who know about my first journey, and I have not been able to give them a for-sure answer! I cannot fully say no, I won’t do it again, or yes, I will do it again. I have been thinking of my answer to that question for a while now, even before she asked it in the exit interview.
There are many reasons I would want to do it again. I just keep thinking that there is a couple out there waiting to be matched so that they can finally have the baby they’ve been waiting for, and here I am, perfectly capable of doing that! The cons aren’t lost on me either. It’s a lot. It’s a lot to commit to again. Just because this surrogacy journey with these intended parents turned out great, does not mean that it will be that “easy” the next time around. There are so many factors and what ifs that need to be considered and I get very overwhelmed thinking about it, so I push it out of my brain, but it just comes creeping back. Maybe there’s a reason. For those of you praying, pray for clarity!
I look at my children, and I think someone out there is waiting for a baby, a child to love like I love mine. Why wouldn’t I give that to them? To me, it’s not that simple, and I’m really trying to put some serious thought into it. Pray for me! 🙂
I will keep you updated when I have come to a decision. Hopefully it will be before I told the lady conducting the exit interview that she could call me back in 3 months and get an answer then!
SPOILER ALERT! Sarah chose to do another journey! Stay tuned for the blog or follow her at Oven Rental Life