5 Do’s and Don’ts of Using Egg Donation for Growing Your Family (for Intended Parents)

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If you’re one of the many pursuing egg donation as a means to grow your family, we’ve got some useful tips! Whether you’re looking to do egg donation only or finding an egg donor for a surrogacy journey, we want to steer you in the right direction to make your experience a positive and rewarding one. 

Do seek guidance from the experts.

Looking to start your family through egg donation, you have two options. You can take the independent route or work with an agency. It’s your right to opt out of working with a full-service agency. However, it’s critical to understand that the process of egg donation is complicated, and it should be handled by experts. There are legal matters, trusts, contracts, egg donor screening protocols, coordination, and more. Intended parents shouldn’t have to worry about those things. Instead, they should be focusing on fostering a relationship with their egg donor and preparing for parenthood.

“I am awestruck and excited about the match with my egg donor. Thank you so much for thinking of me and forwarding her profile on to me. I can’t express enough thanks for this. What a great way to start the week!” – Circle Intended Parent

Do take your time.

It’s important that you’ve fully accepted whatever circumstance led you to assisted reproduction, whether that’s infertility or another life circumstance. To give you an idea of how important this issue is to Circle, we will not work with anyone unless we’ve held a consultation with them to learn about their unique circumstances and determine whether they are a fit for the program. Our concern is the health and well-being of the child brought into this world. And part of that concern is knowing there will be no resentment toward the baby based on how he or she came to be.

Do have realistic expectations.

Egg donation is a human experience. No one can control how and when an individual will respond to medications; whether or not travel plans will need to be changed at the last minute; or whether the egg retrieval will be of great quality and quantity. These elements are often out of your control, out of your egg donor’s control, out of your clinic’s control, and out of Circle’s control. To ensure that your egg donation is a rewarding experience, we encourage (and help) our intended parents to manage their expectations throughout the egg donation process.

Don’t get too discouraged by the process.

The process of finding an egg donor can be overwhelming at times considering how important a decision it is! There may be times of disappointment or it may take longer than you planned to find the perfect match. It can be easy to start feeling discouraged, but the time and care put into this decision will make it all worth it. Finding the perfect match is paramount and at Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation, we will work with you to make that happen! Our Egg Donation and Journey Coordination Teams are always available to help guide you in the right direction and provide the support you may need!

Don’t allow the judgments of others to affect you.

It’s a fortunate thing to live in a world where there’s difference of opinion, otherwise we wouldn’t grow (and things would be boring). But sometimes those opinions can be hasty or judgmental. Don’t let them get you down. It shouldn’t matter if someone doesn’t agree with your choices and path in life because it’s simply that—your path. Take pride in the obstacles you’ve overcome in getting to this point. Your child will one day thank you for your strength.

If you’re ready to learn more about becoming a parent through egg donation, download our free guide for intended parents or browse our egg donor database