If you’re one of the many pursuing egg donation as a means to grow your family, we’ve got some useful tips on what not to do, helping steer you in the right direction to make your experience a positive and rewarding one.
- Do seek guidance from the experts. Looking to start your family through egg donation, you have two options. You can go it independently or with an agency. It’s your right to opt out of working with a full-service agency. However, it’s critical to understand that egg donation is a complicated process that should be handled by the experts. There are legal matters, trusts, contracts, egg donor screening protocols, coordination, and more. Intended parents shouldn’t have to worry about those things. Instead, they should be focusing on fostering a relationship with their donor and preparing for parenthood.
- Do take your time. It’s important that you’ve fully accepted whatever circumstance led you to assisted reproduction. To give you an idea how important it is to Circle, we will not work with anyone unless we’ve held a consultation with them to learn about their unique circumstances and determine whether they are a fit for the program. Our concern is the health and well-being of the child brought into this world. And part of that is knowing there will be no resentment toward the baby based on how he or she came to be.
- Do have realistic expectations. Egg donation is a human experience. No one can control how and when an individual will respond to medications; whether or not travel plans will need to be changed at the last minute; or whether the egg retrieval will be of great quality and quantity. These elements are often out of your control, out of your egg donor’s control, out of your clinic’s control, and out of Circle’s control. To ensure that your egg donation is a rewarding experience, we encourage (and help) our intended parents to manage their expectations throughout the process.
- Do not allow the judgements of others to affect you. It’s a fortunate thing to live in a world where there’s difference of opinion, otherwise we wouldn’t grow (and things would be boring). But sometimes those opinions can be hasty or judgmental. Don’t let them get you down. It shouldn’t matter if someone doesn’t agree with your choices and path in life, because it’s simply that—your path. Take pride in the obstacles you’ve overcome in getting to this point. Your child will one day thank you for your strength.