Circle’s President Releases Statement on Dolce & Gabbana IVF Comments

dolce gabban ivf In light of the recent story on Dolce & Gabbana comments on IVF and surrogacy, Circle’s president and founder, John Weltman, speaks up and out against the cruel words that have targeted families and children created through assisted reproduction.

“I am a gay father through surrogacy and from the same era as Dolce and Gabbana. When we grew up, gay men couldn’t have children unless they married a woman.  Assisted reproduction wasn’t possible. For most gay men of my generation, accepting your sexuality meant accepting that you would never have children. Sadly, for some men of our era, the only way to accept this huge loss was to internalize the then societal perspective that children should only be had and raised by a man and a woman. As Elton John says, this is behind the times. Though Dolce and Gabbana may feel that they have missed the boat, to call children born to their peers (like Elton) “synthetic children” and the wonderful women who carry them “rented wombs” demonstrates the very right wing “fascism” of which they accuse Elton.

“Homophobia from gays is the worst. It is like anti-Semitism from Jews or racism from blacks. We all know it exists, but it sets back the cause of Civil Rights even further than prejudicial statements by the straight world. It gives the strongest support to the detractors of gay rights and fuels their homophobic campaigns. Condemning people’s choices from a segment of a population that prides, and to a certain degree defines, itself by its choices is the greatest error that any gay man can make.”




– John Weltman, Circle Surrogacy Founder and President

Accepting Our Children’s Differences: A sit-down with author Craig Pomranz

Made By Raffi

Childhood is a time fraught with uncertainty and insecurity. Growing up, almost everyone, at some point, has felt like the odd man out — or felt just plain different. While some children are fortunate enough to have adults in their life who celebrate their “differences” and encourage them to let their true colors shine, others aren’t so lucky. Made By Raffi (Frances Lincoln Children’s Books), a unique new children’s book about one brave little boy who forges his own path despite peer pressure, is a must-read for all children.

While being perceived as different can be difficult for kids who just want to fit in, seeing other kids being brave, and celebrating themselves for who they are, can be a powerful tool. Craig Pomranz’s heartwarming book is one such tool for both children and their parents.

We caught up with Pomranz to ask him some questions about his newly released book, advice for parents and kids who might be struggling with feeling different, and about his own childhood experiences.

Q: What or who was your inspiration for penning Made By Raffi?
A: The book was inspired by my godson. As a little boy, he wasn’t so interested in sports or rough and tumble play. When he was about 9, he asked for knitting needles for his birthday, and I was delighted to supply. He really took to it and found it very peaceful and comforting.  At some point, I guess he was teased. He then began to ask questions about why he was different.

I was fascinated when he came up with the term “tomgirl,” because it brought into focus the huge difference between a little girl who likes traditional boys’ activities – a tomboy – and a little boy who likes traditional girls’ activities. A tomboy is admired for her toughness and independence. But “tomgirl” connotes a negative idea: a little boy who is effeminate or weak.  I thought to myself, this is huge. I can really help kids and parents by telling this story.

Raffi Books Languages (2) Q: What message do you hope to send readers?
A: I hope the book supports young boys and girls who are perceived as “different” because of their appearances or hobbies and at the same time encourages all kids to try many different kinds of activities. I also hope it provides comfort for worried parents. It is healthy for children to experiment, try on different identities, and discover themselves. They should do so openly and without fear. It is a funny, colorful book, because kids should also be able to laugh without malice—differences are fun!

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