The best approach in telling your kids you’re about to become a surrogate is to be open, honest, and straightforward. Start the discussion as soon as you begin the process. Be sure to keep their ages in mind so you can present the information in a way they can understand.
We encourage our surrogates to tell their kids before or around the time of the match. While not a requirement, disclosure at this stage can strengthen a surrogate’s profile. Many intended parents find comfort in knowing that their surrogate’s entire family is fully aware of the situation. Sometimes surrogates even include their children on the first Skype interview with the intended parents. This allows your children to meet the family you’re helping.